marriage takes work

A marriage takes work

Always takes work 

AND boy has it been taking work lately, I feel like the husband and I have not been seeing eye to eye lately we have fallen off the same page and are struggling to get back on. This happens sparingly. It’s been just this past week and I blame it some on my under the weather feeling. He doesn’t seem to be doing anything right by me, he may think the opposite but for some reason I am not as forgiving as I have been in the past. I may just be tired and cranky and handling this wrong. I strive to have a happy life, where we don’t argue and if we must we do so and get over it. Talk it out. Well I got my feelings hurt because he proceeded to head out to the pub for Monday night football on the day I got my migraine left me and Isla asleep. Its like he knew Isla would be waking up for dinner it was off she was napping that late anyway. So there I was 5:45 Isla was moving around coming to, my head was throbbing and he was gone. I text him and he said to me I am watching the game. Really?!?!?  I say I am starving and my head is about to explode he asks me if I am going to join him… WHAT? Of course not I have a migraine!!!! He goes on to say well you know I had the game planned a week in advanced. OH WELL EXCUSE ME, AND MY MIGRAINE I AM SORRY I DIDN’T SCHEDULE IT AFTER YOUR GAME! WOW I WAS FLOORED. Okay enough with the caps I was frustrated. So if you have ever had a migraine you would know that even after some of the effects pass you remain hurting until the next day with constant pressure. This migraine was one of those where I threw up from the pain TWICE! And I am there playing and feeding my daughter her dinner. Hurting struggling. If that was not enough when he came home he claimed he came early and before the game ended to see if I was hungry 3 hours later! UM no dumbass I am not hungry anymore! I could have died and he wouldn’t have known. He comes in with this big and bad attitude of “are you upset”? I say no im over it. He says well good because I told you in advance about this game (here we go again) I lost it. I yelled I inflicted more pain to my already throbbing head. WOW! Am I insensitive? Am I wrong to be upset at the thought he still went knowing I was hurting? He didn’t have to take care of me for god sake but help out with our daughter. BUT NOPE. I must say I resented him all week. I sent him to hell that night and vowed I would not be there for him the way I always am when he is sick. But for what? For better or worse for sickness and in health I chose him. I feel as though he doesn’t help out enough and its our constant battle. So what to do? Work at it! He makes me mad and makes me laugh! He is my best friend! It takes so much work to be with someone. With the divorce rate so high 50% it’s almost a challenge NOT to fall in to the statistic. I won’t be a statistic I want Isla to grow up in a loving home where he mommy and daddy share the home filled with love. Since I have been married I haven’t really noticed any difference I am still very opinionated and so is he. We fight. We laugh. We work through our finances like anyone else. We struggle to make our goals come true and expect to give Isla the best life imaginable.What can i do to make sure that our marriage is a successful one and what can do to make sure that we stay strong and teach one another to make the other happy? what is the secret to ever lasting love? Does one just become accustomed to the life style? Do you just settle? I dont want to feel like i just gave in to him and let him walk all over me and let him continue to pull these stunts on me, he seems so careless at times and when i try to make him see i get nothing. Lord give me the patience and the ability to withstand these road blocks.  IS there a secret to a lasting LOVE filled marriage? 

i just want equal partnership. Woman think differently i believe... in fact i know it. Men at times don't see what we see in the same senario. how do we make them see? are you with me on this? am i the only one that this happens to?  mean do we have to really BATTLE it out in marriage? 

And with all this going on… the husband and I enjoyed each other Friday date night great dinner I satisfied my sushi craving and we went to the movies! Since it was raining my parents who were watching our daughter said we should just pick her up in the morning and that we did after our night out I was pleased to see we were in bed cuddling my midnight! Ahhhh how things have changed… for the BEST!

Moral of this post make time for your self, and a couple!